Sometimes if a relationship implodes, you finally learn to push past your defense mechanisms in other relationships to stop the pattern in its track. Growing up in an emotionally abusive family, I have always been conflict avoidant. My sister and I would take turns keeping the peace, and my role as peacekeeper followed me into […]
What Does It Mean to be Open?
I’ve been thinking a lot about polyamory lately, and how I fit into it. I’ve been very interested in the idea of queer intimacy since I was introduced to it in graduate school. The idea that there are forms of intimacy which do not make sense to or in a capitalist heteropatriarchy. The ways which […]
Loss and Gain
I’ve been through a lot of changes in the past year. Health issues. Job loss. Job gain. New career trajectory. Back in school. Loss of home. Moving to a new home. Trying to do things I’ve never done before that I’m not really sure how to do. And most recently, the loss of one of […]