Seriously. They do. This is going to be a post about “things I wish someone had told me a decade ago.” (Or maybe they did and I just wasn’t ready to hear it yet. Always possible.) One of the results of growing up in a dysfunctional dynamic is that it is possible to become used […]
What do you need to bloom?
I’ve had a longstanding interest in gender and sexuality, and the proliferation of new terms to describe gender and sexual orientation I think is a wonderful thing. I first heard the term demisexuality a few years ago on-line, as someone who does not feel sexual attraction without the presence of an emotional bond. The definition resonated […]
Play a Day: BRB
A blackbox theatre stage. It is empty, save for an easel center stage. On the easel is a posterboard sign with the words, “Out enjoying life, try back tomorrow” written in black sharpie.
Review: Come As You Are
Everything you think you know about sex, desire, and sexuality is wrong. Probably. That’s one of many lessons to take away from Emily Nagoski’s new book Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life. Combining science and psychology with the stories of women she has helped over decades of […]
REVIEW: Spinster: Making a Life of One’s Own
I work part-time in a bookstore, and was captivated by both the title and cover of Kate Bolick’s new book, Spinster: Making a Life of One’s Own on our shelves. A woman, presumably Bolick, sits smiling on an antique sofa in a beautiful dress, holding an antique tea cup. It is at once nothing like the […]
Who’s to Blame?
I’ve been watching a Danish comedy (though I question the categorization) called Rita on Netflix. If you don’t want spoilers, (and it’s really good you ought to watch it when you have time to pay attention to subtitles) bookmark this for now and come back to it after you’ve finished Season 2. Watching Rita has […]
Is there a word for that?
Have this feeling that I don’t even know if there’s a word for. I’m not lonely because I don’t mind spending time by myself. I don’t feel isolated because I know there are people who care about me that I can call on if I need help. It’s the feeling that people aren’t excited to […]
Anxiety, Irritability, and History
Mental health issues are weird sometimes. We can only identify what we have names for, and it took someone else pointing it out to me for me to even realize that I have anxiety, and that anxiety was what was a big part of what was underneath all those feelings and experiences I lumped under the […]
Play a Day: Flower or Gardener?
An individual in coveralls and a straw hat sits on a bench, head in their hands. A watering can sits unattended beside them. Another individual wearing a flower costume enters stage left. The flower attempts to get the notice of the gardener to no avail. No amount of posturing, throat clearing, pretty posing, allowing sniffing, […]
What’s in a Name?
As it’s gotten closer to Valentine’s Day, I’ve been thinking a lot about relationships and love and labels. My partner and I are polyamorous. But not in the sense of the traditional poly narrative. Polyamory seems to have become more prominent in the cultural consciousness of late, but a lot of our discussions about it still […]